General iNFO

• If you are being abused, you are not alone. It is common for an abused woman to think she is the only one this is happening to, yet in Canada, one in every four women is, or has been, abused by an intimate partner—a man she lives or lived with.
  
  
• You are also not to blame. Whatever your partner or others have said, you are not responsible for the abuse. All of us have faults and all of us have disagreements within a relationship. This doesn't mean we deserve to be abused. Your partner is the one choosing to be violent—he is responsible, not you.
  
  
• You cannot make the abuse stop by changing your behaviour. In fact, abusive behaviour often becomes more severe and more frequent over time. No matter how accommodating you are, the abusive behaviour won't stop until the abuser decides to change. Meanwhile, you need to get legal information and get safe.
  
  
• There are people who want to help you, people who work in shelters and other agencies. They've been trained to provide information, support and counseling. Their help could make a difference to your life. See the Hot Peach Pages for the names and telephone numbers of agencies in your community that can help.
  
  
• Use the links below to find out more about abuse:


• Learn the warning signs of abuse
• What is abuse?
• Abusive Behaviour Chart (Power & Control Wheel)
• Equality Chart (Equality Wheel)
• Why do men abuse?
• Myths about the Causes of Abuse
• Challenges to leaving
• The Cycle of Violence
• Stalking

Abuse iNFO Sheets

• General iNFO Sheet
• Teens iNFO Sheet
• Older Adults iNFO Sheet
• iNFO Sheet for People with Disabilities

General Resources on Other Sites¹

• Dragonslippers: This is what an abusive relationship looks like by Rosalind B. Penfold
"Of any English resource I've ever read, this book does the best job of showing the fundamentals of an abusive relationship. It is very user-friendly and very powerful! Get this book!"—webmom, Hot Peach Pages


• Am I being abused? — from Saskatchewan
• Am I being abused? — from Nova Scotia
• Intimate Partner Abuse Against Women
• Family Violence
• Woman Abuse
• About Abuse — from Nova Scotia
• What is emotional abuse? — also in
• Emotional Abuse
• Dating Violence — also in
• Why women do not leave abusive relationships
• What are my options?
• How can witnessing abuse affect my children?
• Violence during and after pregnancy
• Signs of Abuse
• What Recovering Batterers Want You To Know About Abuse and Violence — American
• Mary's Story
• Getting Out Booklet
• Separation Safety Plan — American
• Creating a Safety Plan — from Ontario
• My Personal Safety Plan — from Ontario
• My Safety Plan for My Children — from Ontario
• Woman Abuse: an overview — also in

Resources for Rural Women¹

• Report: Domestic Violence in Rural Sask
• Family Violence in Rural, Farm and Remote Canada
• Responding to Wife Abuse in Farm and Rural Communities
• Rural Womyn Zone: Violence against rural women — American
• Rural Womyn Zone: Canada

Abuse and Older Adults¹

• Older Adults iNFO Sheet
• Abuse of Older Adults FAQs
• Abuse of Older Adults

Same-Sex Partner Abuse¹

• List of Resources

Ethnic/Minority Communities¹

• Abuse iNFO in Many Languages
• Issues that abused immigrant and refugee women deal with
• The Double Life Dilemma: Young South Asian Women in Violent Relationships
• Isolated, Afraid and Forgotten: The Service Delivery Needs and Realities of Abused Immigrant and Refugee Women — also in
• "Like a Wingless Bird ..." A Tribute to the Survival and Courage of Women Who Are Abused and Who Speak Neither English nor French — also in
• RoseNet: law and abused immigrant women
• Abuse in the Jewish Community — from Colorado
  
  
• Wife Abuse in the Jewish Community
• An Islamic Perspective on Violence Against Women
  
  
• Cultural Implications of Abuse on Wayback Machine
• Chinese
• Japanese
• Korean


• Abuse Resources for Immigrant and Refugee Women
• Abuse Resources for Women of Colour
• A Complex Web: Access to Justice for Abused Immigrant Women in New Brunswick

Aboriginal Communities¹                

• Kikitimahikawin cī? — Cree (Are you being abused?)
• ᑭᑭᑎᒪᐃᑲᐃᐧᐣ ᒌ? — Cree Syllabics (Are you being abused?)
  
• Danelʔa húsą́ ? Edlą́ghę dene daghelʔa bek´ólyą ? Nets´édiį́ hąt´e sį. — Dene (Are you being abused?)
• ʔąłnedhe haze, t´ahúk´e ną́dher sí ʔasíe hots´én danįt´a húsą́, danelʔa húsą́ ? — Dene (Abuse iNFO for teens)
• Pittiannginniq Ihuannigittuq Pitquhiminingni Humiliqaak — Inuinnaqtun (Abuse is wrong in any culture)
• Qanuruliurungnangniit talva ilvit ningaqtauvakkuvit uvvaluunniit aanniqtauvakkuvit — Inuinnaqtun (What to do if you are abused and/or battered)
• ᐋᓐᓂᕐᒃᓯᕆᓂᕐᒃ ᐱᑦᑎᐊᓐᖏᓐᓂᕐᒃ ᓱᒃᑯᓴᐃᓂᕐᒃ ᓈᒻᒪᓐᖏᑦᑐᕐᒃ ᐱᕐᒃᑯᓯᕆᔭᐅᔪᓕᒫᓂ — Inuktitut (Abuse is wrong in any culture)
• ᕐᑲᓄᐃᒋᐊᒃᓴᖅ ᐱᑦᑎᐊᖅᑕᐅᓐᖕᒋᒃᑯᕕᑦ ᐅᕝᕙᓘᓐᓃᑦ ᓱᒃᑯᔨᐊᖕᒍᒍᕕᑦ— Inuktitut (What to do if you are abused and/or battered)
• Piluadlanik nammangilak nallianituinnak piusitukaujuni — Labradorimiut (Abuse is wrong in any culture)
• Kanuk pigiaKagajammangâppit pilukattauliguvit amma/upvalu pijauliguvit — Labrador (What to do if you are abused and/or battered)
  
  
• Saskatchewan Aboriginal Family Violence Programs
• Violence in Aboriginal Communities — also in
• Resource Guide on Family Violence Issues for Aboriginal Communities — also in
• Family Violence in Aboriginal Communities: An Aboriginal Perspective — also in
• Abuse Resources for First Nations Women
• Mending the Sacred Hoop
  
  
• Native American Domestic Violence Information — American
• Tribal and Native Women's Sovereignty
• Why Indian Women Stay
• Collusion
• For A Woman Who Has Been Battered
• Natural Life-Supporting Power
• Unnatural Life-Destroying Power
• Internalized Oppression
• Examples of Internalized Oppression

Abuse and People with Disabilities¹

• iNFO Sheet for People with Disabilities
• Violence and People with Disabilities — also in
• Family Violence and People with Intellectual Disabilities — also in
• Family Violence Against Women with Disabilities — also in
• Saskatchewan Voice of People with Disabilities
• DisAbled Women's Network (DAWN)

Teens and Abuse¹

• Dragonslippers: This is what an abusive relationship looks like by Rosalind B. Penfold
"This book does the best job of showing the fundamentals of an abusive relationship of any English resource I've ever read. It is very user-friendly and very powerful! Although it's about a relationship between two adults, its 'comic book' format speaks to teens. Get this book!"—webmum, Hot Peach Pages


• Teens iNFO Sheet
• Learn the warning signs of abuse
• For Teens to Think About
• Teen line online — American
  
  
• Making Waves
• Younger Teens
• Older Teens


• Break the Cycle — American
• Bursting the Bubble — American
• Teen Dating Violence — American
• Love is respect — American
• Free from Fear: Sexual assault prevention for teens
• Dating Violence — also in
• Take Care: a guide to safe relationships — American
• Jewish Women International: Resources for Teens
• Jennifer Ann's Group — American
• Guide for Girls on Love, Respect and Abuse in Relationships — Australian
• 'Australia Says No' Booklet: Information for young people — Australian
  
  
• Acquaintance Rape and Sexual Exploitation: What Adults Can Do To Help Teens — American
• Le viol par un proche et l'exploitation sexuelle: ce que peuvent faire les adultes pour aider les adolescents — American
  
  
• Overview: Parent Abuse: The Abuse of Parents by Their Teenage Children
• Parent Abuse: The Abuse of Parents by Their Teenage Children — also in

iNFO re: Men¹

• Intimate Partner Abuse Against Men
  
• About Domestic Violence Against Men — American
  
• Abuse in Gay Male Relationships: A Discussion Paper
• Directory of Services and Programs for Abused Men in Canada
• Husband Abuse: An Overview of Research and Perspectives
• Intimate Partner Abuse Against Men - Overview Paper — also in
• The Invisible Boy: Revisioning the Victimization of Male Children and Teens — also in
• Opening the Door: A Treatment Model for Therapy with Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse
• When Boys Have Been Sexually Abused: A Guide for Young Boys
• When Males Have Been Sexually Abused: A Guide for Adult Male Survivors
  
  
• La violence à l'égard des hommes dans les relations intimes
  
• Les adolescents aux prises avec la violence sexuelle : Guide à l'intention des adolescents
• Comment répondre aux besoins des délinquants sexuels ayant un retard de développement - un guide
• Le garçon invisible : Nouveau regard sur la victimologie au masculin - enfants et adolescents — also in
• Les jeunes garçons victimes de violence sexuelle : Guide à l'intention des jeunes garçons — also in
• Les hommes victimes de violence sexuelle dans l'enfance : Guide à l'intention des survivants adultes — also in
• Quand la porte s'ouvre : Modèle de traitement des personnes de sexe masculin qui ont survécu à l'abus sexuel — also in
• Répertoire des services et programmes pour hommes violentés au Canada
• La violence des gais dans leurs relations intimes — Un document de travail
• Violence à l'égardgard du mari : Vue d'ensemble sur la recherche et les perspectives
  
  
• Men: Do you think your wife is abusing you?
  
• Domestic Violence: Not an Even Playing Field — American
  
  
• XY Articles on Violence — Australian
• Claims about Husband Battering


• For Men to Think About
• What Recovering Batterers Want You To Know About Abuse and Violence — American
• What is abuse?
• Why do men abuse?
• Men For Change
• Men For Change December 6
• The White Ribbon Campaign
• A Dozen Things Men Can Do To Stop Men's Violence Against Women
• Working With Men — American
• Canada's Treatment Programs for Men Who Abuse Their Partners, 2004

Violence and HIV/AIDS¹

• Battered Women and HIV/AIDS — American
• Violence against Women & HIV/AIDS — American

Violence and Substance Abuse¹

• Family Violence and Substance Abuse — also in
• The Alcohol Connection, etc. — American
• Facts on interpersonal violence and alcohol — International

Online Publications about Abuse¹

• Making Changes: A Book for Women in Abusive Relationships — from Nova Scotia
• Changer pour le mieux: Un livre pour les femmes victimes de violence — from Nova Scotia
For print copies of the above publications, contact: women@gov.ns.ca, Tel: 902-424-8662; Fax: 902-424-0573


• Options, Choices, Changes — from the Yukon (adapted from "Making Changes")
• Abuse is Wrong in Any Language — Department of Justice, Canada
• Domestic Violence: Finding Safety and Support — American
  
  
• Resources by Centre for Children and Families in the Justice System (Ontario)
• Helping Children Thrive—Supporting Woman Abuse Survivors as Mothers: A Resource to Support Parenting
• Pour aider les enfants à mieux réussir—En assistant dans leur rôle maternel les survivantes de la violence faite aux femmes: Une ressource pour appuyer l'art d'être un bon parent
  
  
• Learning to Listen, Learning to Help: Understanding Woman Abuse and Its Effects on Children
• Apprendre à écouter, apprendre à aider: Comprendre la violence faite aux femmes et ses effets sur les enfants
  
  
• Information for Mothers Who Have Left Abusive Relationships
• Renseignements destinés à des mères de famille qui ont quitté une relation de violence
• Informações para mães que deixaram um relacionamento abusivo