General iNFO

• If you are being abused, you are not alone. It is common for an abused woman to think she is the only one this is happening to, yet in Canada, one in every four women is, or has been, abused by an intimate partner—a man she lives or lived with.
  
  
• You are also not to blame. Whatever your partner or others have said, you are not responsible for the abuse. All of us have faults and all of us have disagreements within a relationship. This doesn't mean we deserve to be abused. Your partner is the one choosing to be violent—he is responsible, not you.
  
  
• You cannot make the abuse stop by changing your behaviour. In fact, abusive behaviour often becomes more severe and more frequent over time. No matter how accommodating you are, the abusive behaviour won't stop until the abuser decides to change. Meanwhile, you need to get legal information and get safe.
  
  
• There are people who want to help you, people who work in shelters and other agencies. They've been trained to provide information, support and counseling. Their help could make a difference to your life. See the Hot Peach Pages for the names and telephone numbers of agencies in your community that can help.
  
  
• Use the links below to find out more about abuse:


• Qualities of a healthy relationship
• Learn the warning signs of abuse
• What is abuse?
• Abusive Behaviour Chart (Power & Control Wheel)
• Equality Chart (Equality Wheel)
• Why do men abuse?
• Myths about the Causes of Abuse
• La Violence Conjugale: Dissiper les mythes
• Challenges to leaving
• The Cycle of Violence
• Stalking

Abuse iNFO Sheets

• General iNFO Sheet
• Teens iNFO Sheet
• Older Adults iNFO Sheet
• iNFO Sheet for People with Disabilities

General Resources on Other Sites¹

• Dragonslippers: This is what an abusive relationship looks like by Rosalind B. Penfold
"Of any English resource I've ever read, this book does the best job of showing the fundamentals of an abusive relationship. It is very user-friendly and very powerful! Get this book!"—webmom, Hot Peach Pages


• Am I being abused? — from Saskatchewan
  
  
• Woman Abuse
• Types of Abuse
• Myths
• Bill of Rights for Abused Women


• Violence and Abuse — from Nova Scotia
• Are You Emotionally Abused? Questions for Women in Heterosexual Relationships
• Emotional Abuse Assessment Guide
• What is emotional abuse? on Wayback Machine
• Dating Violence
• Why women do not leave abusive relationships
  
  
• Information for Survivors
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• What are my options?
• How can witnessing abuse affect my children?


• Violence during and after pregnancy
• Abuse Signs and What You Can Do
• What Recovering Batterers Want You To Know About Abuse and Violence — American
• Mary's Story
• Getting Out Booklet
• Safety Planning for Women Who are Abused — from Ontario
• Safety Plan
• My Personal Safety Plan — from Ontario
• My Safety Plan for My Children — from Ontario
• Journey to Freedom
• Intimate Partner Abuse Against Women

Resources for Rural Women¹

• Report: Domestic Violence in Rural Sask
• Family Violence in Rural, Farm and Remote Canada on Wayback Machine
• Responding to Wife Abuse in Farm and Rural Communities
• Rural Womyn Zone: Violence against rural women — American
• Rural Women Domestic Violence Kit on Wayback Machine — Australian

Abuse and Older Adults¹

• Older Adults iNFO Sheet
• Abuse of Older Adults
• Violence à l'égard des personnes âgées
• Abuse of Older Adults FAQs — Alberta

Same-Sex Partner Abuse¹

• List of Resources

Ethnic/Minority Communities¹

• Abuse iNFO in Many Languages
• Immigrant and refugee women resources
• RoseNet: law and abused immigrant women
• Wife Abuse in the Jewish Community on Wayback Machine
• An Islamic Perspective on Violence Against Women
  
  
• Cultural Implications of Abuse on Wayback Machine
• Chinese
• Japanese
• Korean

Aboriginal Communities¹                

• Cree: Kikitimahikawin cī? Cree Are you being abused?
• Cree Syllabics: ᑭᑭᑎᒪᐃᑲᐃᐧᐣ ᒌ? Are you being abused?
  
  
• Dene: Danelʔa húsą́ ? Edlą́ghę dene daghelʔa bek´ólyą ? Nets´édiį́ hąt´e sį. Are you being abused?
• Dene: ʔąłnedhe haze, t´ahúk´e ną́dher sí ʔasíe hots´én danįt´a húsą́, danelʔa húsą́ ? Abuse iNFO for teens
  
  
• Inuinnaqtun: Pittiannginniq Ihuannigittuq Pitquhiminingni Humiliqaak Abuse is wrong in any culture
• Inuinnaqtun: Qanuruliurungnangniit talva ilvit ningaqtauvakkuvit uvvaluunniit aanniqtauvakkuvit What to do if you are abused and/or battered
  
  
• Inuktitut: ᐋᓐᓂᕐᒃᓯᕆᓂᕐᒃ ᐱᑦᑎᐊᓐᖏᓐᓂᕐᒃ ᓱᒃᑯᓴᐃᓂᕐᒃ ᓈᒻᒪᓐᖏᑦᑐᕐᒃ ᐱᕐᒃᑯᓯᕆᔭᐅᔪᓕᒫᓂ Abuse is wrong in any culture
• Inuktitut: ᕐᑲᓄᐃᒋᐊᒃᓴᖅ ᐱᑦᑎᐊᖅᑕᐅᓐᖕᒋᒃᑯᕕᑦ ᐅᕝᕙᓘᓐᓃᑦ ᓱᒃᑯᔨᐊᖕᒍᒍᕕᑦ What to do if you are abused and/or battered
  
  
• Labradorimiut: Piluadlanik nammangilak nallianituinnak piusitukaujuni Abuse is wrong in any culture
• Labrador: Kanuk pigiaKagajammangâppit pilukattauliguvit amma/upvalu pijauliguvit What to do if you are abused and/or battered
  
  
• Saskatchewan Aboriginal Family Violence Programs
• Aboriginal Women and Family Violence
• Family Violence Prevention Resources - Aboriginal
• Family Violence in Aboriginal Communities
• Mending the Sacred Hoop
  
  
• Native American Domestic Violence Information on Wayback Machine — American
• Tribal and Native Women's Sovereignty
• Why Indian Women Stay
• Collusion
• For A Woman Who Has Been Battered
• Natural Life-Supporting Power
• Unnatural Life-Destroying Power
• Internalized Oppression
• Examples of Internalized Oppression

Abuse and People with Disabilities¹

• iNFO Sheet for People with Disabilities
• Resources for women with disabilities
• Resources for deaf women
• Violence and People with Disabilities — also in on Wayback Machine
• Family Violence and People with Intellectual Disabilities — also in on Wayback Machine
• Family Violence Against Women with Disabilities on Wayback Machine
• A Focus on Family Violence against People with Disabilities
• Saskatchewan Voice of People with Disabilities
• DAWN: DisAbled Women's Network Canada

Teens and Abuse¹

• Dragonslippers: This is what an abusive relationship looks like by Rosalind B. Penfold
"This book does the best job of showing the fundamentals of an abusive relationship of any English resource I've ever read. It is very user-friendly and very powerful! Although it's about a relationship between two adults, its 'comic book' format speaks to teens. Get this book!"—webmum, Hot Peach Pages


• Teens iNFO Sheet
• Learn the warning signs of abuse
• Date Safe Relationship Handbook on Wayback Machine
• Kid's Help Phone for Teens
• Jeunesse j'écoute pour les ados
• For Teens to Think About
• Free from Fear: Sexual assault prevention for teens on Wayback Machine
• Sexual Abuse: what happens when you tell
• Sibling Sexual Abuse
  
  
• Respect Love, Love Respect: Dating Violence Prevention — American
• Love is respect — American
• Teen line online — American
• Dating Violence 101 — American
• Break the Cycle Handouts — American
• Love is respect — American
• Jennifer Ann's Group — American
  
  
• youth say no — Australian
• Love: the Good, the Bad and the Ugly — Australian
• Bursting the Bubble — Australian
• 'Australia Says No' Booklet: Information for young people — Australian
  
  
• Acquaintance Rape and Sexual Exploitation: What Adults Can Do To Help Teens — American
• Le viol par un proche et l'exploitation sexuelle: ce que peuvent faire les adultes pour aider les adolescents — American
  
  
• Parent Abuse: The Abuse of Parents by Their Teenage Children on Wayback Machine

iNFO re: Men¹

• Intimate Partner Abuse Against Men
  
• La violence à l'égard des hommes dans les relations intimes
• About Domestic Violence Against Men — American
• Help for Abused Men — American
• Men resources
• Men: Do you think your wife is abusing you?
• Domestic Violence: Not an Even Playing Field — American
• FAQ: But doesn’t evidence show that women are just as likely to batter their partners as men?
  
  
• XY Articles on Violence — Australian
• Claims about Husband Battering


• What Recovering Batterers Want You To Know About Abuse and Violence — American
• What is abuse?
• Why do men abuse?
• Are You Emotionally Abusive? Questions for Men to Ask Themselves
• Men For Change
• Men For Change December 6
• The White Ribbon Campaign
• A Dozen Things Men Can Do To Stop Men's Violence Against Women
• Working With Men — American on Wayback Machine
• Canada's Treatment Programs for Men Who Abuse Their Partners

Violence and HIV/AIDS¹

• Battered Women and HIV/AIDS — American on Wayback Machine
• Violence against Women & HIV/AIDS — American on Wayback Machine
• The links between violence against women and HIV and AIDS on Wayback Machine

Violence and Substance Abuse¹

• Promising Directions for Helping Chemically-Involved Battered Women Get Safe and Sober — American on Wayback Machine
• Relationship of Victimization to Addiction — American on Wayback Machine
• Battered Women with Chemically-involved Partners — American on Wayback Machine
• The Safety Zone: The Alcohol Connection — American on Wayback Machine
• Model Domestic Violence Policy for Counties: Substance Abuse Treatment System — American
  
  
• Lessons from the Illinois Substance Abuse/Domestic Violence Pilot Initiative — American
• National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence: Substance Abuse-Related Links — American
• TIP 25: Substance Abuse Treatment and Domestic Violence — American
• Facts on interpersonal violence and alcohol — International

Online Publications about Abuse¹

• Making Changes: A Book for Women in Abusive Relationships — from Nova Scotia
• Changer pour le mieux: Un livre pour les femmes victimes de violence — from Nova Scotia
  
  
• Options, Choices, Changes — from the Yukon (adapted from "Making Changes")
• Intimate Partner Abuse Against Women
• La violence à l'égard des femmes dans les relations intimes
• Family Violence
• Violence familiale
• Abuse is Wrong in Any Language — Department of Justice, Canada
• Domestic Violence: Finding Safety and Support — American on Wayback Machine
• Violence Against Women: What Can I Do? — Australian
  
  
• Resources by Centre for Children and Families in the Justice System Ontario
• Helping Children Thrive—Supporting Woman Abuse Survivors as Mothers: A Resource to Support Parenting
• Pour aider les enfants à mieux réussir—En assistant dans leur rôle maternel les survivantes de la violence faite aux femmes: Une ressource pour appuyer l'art d'être un bon parent
  
  
• Learning to Listen, Learning to Help: Understanding Woman Abuse and Its Effects on Children
• Apprendre à écouter, apprendre à aider: Comprendre la violence faite aux femmes et ses effets sur les enfants
  
  
• Information for Mothers Who Have Left Abusive Relationships
• Renseignements destinés à des mères de famille qui ont quitté une relation de violence
• Informações parentais para mães que deixaram um relacionamento abusivo
• DV被害から逃れた 母親のための インフォメーション