|Do you think your husband/partner/ boyfriend is abusing
Signs of abuse...
- Hit, slap, kick, punch or
push you around?
Hurt you or threaten to hurt you in other ways?
- Treat you like a possession, not a
- Force you
to have sex against your wishes?
- Constantly put you down, make you
- Make it hard for you to
- Not let
you have your own friends?
"If any of this
part of an
relationship. Get help."
Excerpt from Canada's Private
Broadcasters' 1996 anti-Violence
Radio and Television
The first step is often the hardest. If
nothing is done, the abuse will not stop, even if he says that be
loves you and promises that it will never happen
Help is available.
think you have been abused…
- Call a friend or family member you
trust. Be sure it is someone who understands that
violence is never okay nor justifiable, that you are not to blame
for his abusive behaviour and that your safety and your children's
safety must be the top priority. If the person you tell is not
supportive, don't stop, keep looking until you find someone who
- Call a woman's shelter or crisis
line. (#'s in front pages of phone book) A woman's shelter can
provide safety, support and help with your future plans. You don't
have to stay at a shelter to get help. You can talk to someone
over the phone. They can help you make the choices that are right
for you and find the resources you need.
- Call the police. (#'s in front
pages of phone book) Remember, violence is a crime. It is against
the law to physically or sexually assault someone.
- Join a support group. You are not
alone. Self-help groups, where assaulted women meet, are extremely
useful in helping women find ways to protect themselves and deal
with the emotional, physical and financial changes in their lives.
Check with your local shelter or crisis fine to find out about
support groups in your community.
- See a counsellor. Find a counsellor
who values your right to freedom from abuse and will work with
you, believe you and support your choices and decisions.