Appendix D: A Question of Perspective
These are examples of common questions asked of homosexuals.
The authors have turned them into a heterosexual context.
As you read through the questionnaire, what are some
of your reactions? (This questionnaire is for all people
lesbian, gay, bisexual, or straight.)
- What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
- When and how did you first decide you were a
- Is it possible your heterosexuality stems form
a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
- With all the problems heterosexuals face, would
you want your child to be heterosexual?
- If you've never slept with a person of the same
sex, how do you know you wouldn't prefer it?
- To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual
- Your heterosexuality doesn't bother me as long
as you don't try to force it on me. Why do heterosexuals
feel compelled to pressure others into their life-style?
- Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality?
Why can't you be comfortable enough with who you
are, so you don't have to keep putting it in everyone's
- 90% of child molesters are heterosexual. Do you
really consider it safe to expose your children
to a heterosexual teacher?
- Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves
narrowly restricted stereotyped sex-roles. Why do
you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?
- How can you enjoy a fully satisfying sexual experience
or deep emotional rapport with a person of the opposite
sex, when the obvious physical, biological, and
temperamental difference between you are so vast?
How can men possibly understand what pleases a woman
sexually or vice-versa?
- Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on
sex? (e.g. Playboy channel)
- With all the societal support marriage receives,
the divorce rate is spiralling. Why are there so
few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
- Considering the mass overpopulation of the world,
how do you justify being heterosexual?
- There seem to be very few happy heterosexuals.
Techniques have been developed that can help you
change if you really wanted to. Have you considered
- Do heterosexuals hate others of their own sex?
Is that why you are heterosexual?
- Why are heterosexuals so promiscuous?
- Why do you make a point of attributing heterosexuality
to famous people? Is it to justify your own heterosexuality?
- Could you really trust a heterosexual therapist
to be objective and unbiased? Don't you fear she
might be inclined to influence you in the direction
of her own ideas?
(Adapted Dr. M. Tucker & S. Young and
Lesbians Working to End Violence in Lesbian Relationships)